How to Love the World

How may we love our world, this beautiful world, this world in turmoil? How do we love anyone? The first order of business is to love oneself. We must love and respect ourselves before we can move onto love of other. Here are a dozen quotes to explore loving oneself, as well as how our love may change the world. Just imagine how our voices and hearts could create a grand celebration of love for the world!

How and Why to Love Self

  • How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you. Rupi Kaur
  • Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this Earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth, and everything else will come. Ellen De Generes
  • Respect others and others will respect you. Confucius
  • Make peace with your broken pieces. R. H. Sin
  • You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level. Eckhart Tolle
  • Don’t forget to tell yourself positive things daily! You must love yourself internally to glow externally. Hannah Bronfman
  • Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. Louise Hay

Love to the World

  • I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do. Brene’ Brown
  • You change the world by being yourself. Yoko Ono
  • Friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world. Eleanor Roosevelt
  • What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Let us contemplate this love of self. If you’d like, here is a blog on self love: How may each of us personally make a difference in the world today? THINK LIKE WATER may provide some thought provoking angles. Contemplate how we may show respect, make peace, be ourselves, work miracles. Perhaps shining our inner light is a wonderful start!

Imagine Our Love!

Now, to make a huge impact on loving the entire world, each and every country, I invite you to join with many in a world wide unison sing of the Beatles song, Imagine, at 3 p.m., Ukraine time on 3.3.2022.

Please unite with me in this peacebuilding effort to stop a war where only love can prevail. Love and arts are among the most powerful forces in this world. I welcome you to join me for only 3 minutes and 16 seconds of our time. Our world will thank you!

Peace Inducing Arts

The triple trio of music, visual arts and poetry may certainly be just what you need. Allow them to invite peace into your life! A life long interest, education and career in the arts have served me well. Now I pass them along to you! These arts greatly speak to the needs so many of us have at this time. Whether you are grieving a loved one or a personal loss of any sort, or weary over the ways of the world, may these bring you comfort. In order for our world to experience peace, each of us must find and embrace this feeling on a personal level. Please enjoy these peace inducing arts!

Musical Peace

One of my favorite pieces of music, this selection makes me feel inspired serenity. This popular Baroque selection begins with a very simple theme. It is repeated and embellished throughout its entirety. The flourish of beauty may be evident to you as you listen.

Once your goosebumps subside, prepare for another treat. Harp music never ceases to relax me into an extremely peaceful state. In fact, you may find this selection absolutely heavenly!

The third piece I’ve chosen is a vocal number. Being about friendship, allow your thoughts of good friend to come to mind as you listen!

Peace Promoting Poetry

Besides music, now we come to poetry. Playing with words has always sparked my imagination and feelings. These particular poems are no exception. The first one is a well known poem. Close your eyes as you listen. Feel the images. Ponder the rhythm of the words!

All three poems here feature nature. Feel into the day that is described therein. Relax into the word pictures, similes and metaphors.

Who would know how the wild could tame us? How could the outer bring us to the inner? Allow oneself to enter into this stillness.

Peace Inducing Visual Arts

Last of all, my focus is upon visual arts. The first is by a sculptor who focuses upon horses as subject matter. Just imagine! How free and peaceful would it feel to be riding this graceful creature? Besides the animal imagery, I chose this particular one because of her art media choice. I applaud material usage that may otherwise be cluttering a landfill. Transforming scrap into an object of beauty is preferable!

Secondly, this painter creates very romanticized landscapes. An amazing sense of color lives in his paintings. He evokes a great sense of light. Enjoy! (Click on link and scroll down from the water photo to the first painting.)

Last, but not least, I chose a perennially favorite artist. This Impressionist typically depicted many landscapes. Imagine yourself in the midst of one of his scenes. Feel the breeze of the fresh air as you do so. Note the peaceful light flickering in his images.

Here are some additional posts on this theme: ARTS AND SOCIETY – I, REBUILDING A CIVIL SOCIETY, and CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING.

Finally, we’ve come to the close of this triple trio of artistic delights. Artistic beauty is a tremendous psychological resource. May you revel in the peaceful delights you saw, heard and felt! I encourage you to further explore to discover other arts, other sources of potential peace.

Comforting Bereaved Parents

How may the comforting of bereaved parents be achieved? Sometimes it seems that the only people who truly understand this grief is another person who has also lost an offspring. Statistically, child loss is one way which can cause the most severe type of grief (complicated grief).

This is what we bereaved parents wish others to know.

People mean well when condolences are offered. However, it is common for us to be told that we should “get over it” or “we should be all better in a year” or “stop crying, move on, cheer up”. Stated simply, parental grief is something that can be lingering (in greater or lesser degrees) under the surface. We do what we must to honor and remember our beloved child. If that means occasional tears, so be it.

The loss of a child (no matter the age) is much more complex than other relationship losses. This particular loss involves the missing of much potential and promise, not only for parents, but also for siblings. For parents, we dream the what-if scenarios. What if our child was still here? Would he or she have been learning to walk, riding a bike, enjoying reading, playing sports, etc.? If an adult child, what kind of job may they have had? Would they have gotten married? Could we have had grandchildren? For any age, would they have been kind?

We scan the faces of friends and strangers when in public. We search for those of the same gender and would-have-been age of our child with a bit of a pang in our hearts. When we inevitably find one similar to our lost child, we think how lucky these other parents are and they may not even know it.

Comforting Bereaved Siblings

For siblings, perhaps they may wonder if they would have shared a bedroom. Maybe they question if they would have been a helpful sibling to them. Maybe they desire to know if they would have shared fun secrets or hobbies or travels.

All of us, whether parents or siblings, still desire to have that special person to love and to hug and to be family.

Speaking of children, they, just as adults, may have the words of condolences rolling around in their heads. One four-year-old sibling asked her parents to stop going to church. Why, you may ask? “She had heard many say God needed her brother and took him to be with Him, so she didn’t want God to ‘need’ any other family members. She would also ask if we could climb a ladder to ‘peek’ into heaven to see her missing sibling.”

In another sibling story, a child, who was born after his sibling’s death, surprised his parents on the day of his sister’s wedding. “When he went to congratulate the couple, he sobbed in his brother-in-law’s arms as he said, ‘I’ve waited my whole life to have a brother I could actually hug.’ His parents had assumed incorrectly that since he wasn’t born when his sibling died, that he wouldn’t miss him.”

Sometimes a parent may catch themselves being overly protective of their remaining children. This could create a sense of fear in not only the parents, but also the children. If fear is an issue in your life, here are a couple of posts: FEAR IS THE LOCK and Transform Fear.

Perhaps those offering support to grieving families would do well to hug more, listen more and speak less.

Healing Child Loss Grief

In comforting bereaved parents, each person must discover what brings comfort and strive to gravitate toward those practices. Frequently, the arts bring solace to grieving parents. Whether it is creating in music, theater, or literary, culinary or visual arts, putting something of oneself into artistic routines can be beneficial. Attentive, appreciative listening, viewing or partaking of others’ creative efforts offers healing. (Think art museums and concert halls.) Art, Grief and Life elaborates.

Being outside in the realm of nature is another healthy habit that many choose. Appreciating the beauty of nature is very comforting. Remember, trees, plants and wild animals are good listeners! It feels good to release our grief to the winds.

Pets can be rapt listeners as well. Plus there is the mutual benefit of snuggling. Looking into your pet’s eyes, you may find your own love reflected back at you!

Many of us speak to our child on the other side of the veil. They are capable of hearing us. Sometimes we may receive a response. It could be through words coming to your mind. Maybe it could be visions or dreams. Nature or just everyday life may send signs. The secret is being aware. OUR VISITOR is a Christmas-time example. MIRACLES AND DUETS details a beautiful dream! Many bereaved parents question themselves or others as to if something is truly a sign. It is best to simply accept it as a sign and welcome the peace and happiness it offers.

Connecting with other grieving parents can be a great source of comfort as we are all acutely aware of the experiences and the feelings. Even though each loss, child’s age, and cause of death, as well as our own personal response is unique, there is enough commonality to be beneficial.

Other Helpful Tips

Allowing oneself to consume healthy foods and to get sufficient fresh air, exercise, and sleep are key to being optimally functional, whether one is actively grieving or not. Meditation can be a meaningful and relaxing experience. You may find Why Gratitude? works to give you a change of heart. WASH AWAY NEGATIVITY! speaks of the importance of properly hydrating and detoxing oneself.

Critically, one must deal with loss when it happens. Otherwise, the grief resides in one’s body and could have potential negative effects on one’s health and relationships. Locating a good grief counselor may be wise. Perusing recommended books or websites on grief has been helpful to many.

Faith is a critical component in many grieving parents’ lives with the connection to a Higher Strength. This atmosphere of music, love, prayer and fellowship provides much needed solace in comforting bereaved parents.

Comforting Bereaved Spouses

Spouses must take care to check in with one another and keep the lines of communication open. There are gender differences in grieving habits. Because of this, each member of a marriage may have very differing ways of processing grief. For example, some wish to express their feelings while others may not. Having this understanding is important for couples to realize, otherwise, the marriage could be at risk.

If you have found this helpful, feel free to click follow blog at the very top or bottom of this page. Entering your email will ensure you receive a new weekly post! Perhaps you have a friend who could benefit as well.

As a grieving parent, may you find your new normal. Take one day at a time if necessary. May you find the solace you so richly deserve in your journey toward becoming a comforted bereaved parent.

Thoughts on Love

It is the time of year when many may more fully turn their thoughts toward love. But then, anytime is always a wonderful time to think about love! Our focus will be on self and romantic love as well as love for humankind.

Self Love

  • I’m a big believer in ‘you must love yourself before you can love anybody else’, and I think for me that breeds the most inspired relationships. Scarlett Johansson
  • We accept the love we think we deserve. Stephen Chbosky
  • Love yourself first and everything falls into line. Lucille Ball
  • To love is to recognize yourself in another. Eckhart Tolle

Romantic Love Thoughts

  • My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep. The more I give thee, the more I have, for both are infinite. William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet
  • To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides. David Viscott
  • Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  • You are my sun, my moon, and all my stars. e e cummings

Love for Humankind

  • Love is such a powerful force. It’s there for everyone to embrace – that kind of unconditional love for all of humankind. That is the kind of love that impels people to go into the community and try to change conditions for others, to take risks for what they believe in. Coretta Scott King
  • Love is the whole thing. We are only the pieces. Rumi
  • Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. Oprah Winfrey
  • I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more potent than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death. Robert Fulghum

When we turn our thoughts toward love, we are allowing our bodies to heal, our relationships to heal, our world to heal. Here is an amazing site on this healing power: Two of my posts illustrate how a more loving manner could change your world: Speaks with Sunshine and Your Thoughts Are Seeds. Remember, no matter the question, that love is the ultimate answer!


Well initially, it was thanks to my Dracaena Marginata ‘Tricolor’ (pictured above) that I was given the theme of balance. This houseplant has been in our home for over three decades. Not long ago, we divided this leggy plant by air layering. There is always a fine equilibrium between type of soil and kind of pot with the species of plant. I’d decided the divided plants needed to be repotted with a different type of soil. The other soil was holding too much moisture. In just a couple of weeks, one of the two plants showed me how happy it is by intensifying the depth of color in the leaves! Just think if we could have more of this harmony in our lives! What could happen for us then? How could this be achieved?

Balance in Life

  • Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving. Albert Einstein
  • The body needs its rest, and sleep is extremely important in any health regimen. There should be three main things: eating, exercise and sleep. All three, together in the right balance makes for a truly healthy lifestyle. Rohit Shetty

Find it in Art

  • It’s all in how you arrange the thing…, the careful balance of the design is the motion. Andrew Wyeth
  • What I dream of is an art of balance, of purity and serenity devoid of troubling or depressing subject matter – a soothing, calming influence on the mind, rather like a good armchair which provides relaxation from physical fatigue. Henri Matisse
  • Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some. Robert Fulgham
  • Find your balance and stand with it, … your song and sing it out, … your cadence and let it appear like a dance. Find the questions that only you know how to ask and the answers that you are content to not know. Mary Anne Radmacher

Grief needs it, too!

  • Through substitute activities, therapy, and hard work, grieving individuals can work through their anger and progress to live more balanced lives. Valerie Orr
  • There is a fine balance between honoring the past and losing yourself in it. For example, you can acknowledge and learn from mistakes you made, and then move on and refocus on the now. It is called forgiving yourself. Eckhart Tolle
  • If you restore balance in your own self, you will be contributing immensely to the healing of the world. Deepak Chopra
  • Love is the undisturbed balance that binds this universe together. Mahavatar Babaji
  • Life is balance of holding on and letting go. Rumi
  • Balance is the perfect state of still water. Let that be our model. Confucius

Here is a helpful link for healthy grieving: These are a couple of blog posts on grief: What is a Vilomah? and ERASE GRIEF. Finally, may you ponder what ways your life could use more balance.

Child Loss Questionnaire

As my blog strongly identifies with the concept of child loss, a brief questionnaire may be in order. First of all, allow me to extend my sympathies to those of you who are grieving. Your loss, of course, could be a child of any age, from pre-birth up to mature adult. There are only two questions. I plan to write a future blog from the resulting answers. No one who participates will be identified. More than likely, most of the blog resulting from these two questions will show generalities sourced from the responses. If there are some quotable answers, the words will be in quote marks, however, rest assured, you will not be identified.


1. What do you wish others could know about losing a child?

2. What has helped you the most in your journey of grief?

Before you answer, perhaps compare your life journey from before losing your child, to just after as well as to now. Contemplate what information could assist others in understanding the situation of a grieving parent. Remember what advice or feedback you may have received from a grieving parent that comforts you. What gives you the strength to carry on? Ponder sharing your inner wisdom to be of service to others who may have recently lost a child. Those who are new as well as experienced to this grief journey may greatly benefit from your answers. Remember, we are stronger together!

Finally, if you are a grieving parent, I would greatly appreciate your honest feedback. You will have two weeks from the day of this posting to complete your answers. Please share your responses with me by clicking on the word “Contact” at the top of this page and entering your answers. I will begin gathering and analyzing all answers by February 9. If you aren’t already a follower of my blog, please follow so you may view the results of this questionnaire. I truly hope to support you, as well as all the others, by sharing what your experiences have been.

Thank-you in advance for your help by sharing your hard earned wisdom!

Winter Cozy

How can we make this winter cozy? Hygge (pronounced HOO-gah) is a Danish and Norwegian word for making the indoors comfy during the cold winter months. I’d like to share my winter cozy, Iowa style!

1. Bring the outdoors in! Indoor plants can remind us of being outdoors during warmer weather. Here is a link on the benefits of plants:

Indoor Jungle

2. Snuggle up with a lovely afghan. Enjoy the beauty of the stitches while it caresses you in warmth!

3. Make yourself a favorite hot drink. Mine is a warming spice based tea.

4. Take a hot bath in scented epsom salts and soak in the steamy goodness while you detoxify. Here is a post detailing reasons as to why this is a healthy practice! WASH AWAY NEGATIVITY!

5. While using actual sunlight or a natural sunlight lamp, do some artwork or writing. Here is a link on why sunlight is so important for us. Here is a post I shared on CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING and why it is so vital.

6. Bake several loaves of homemade bread or make an entire meal in the oven. Either heats up the kitchen, nice and toasty!

Fresh Baked Bread

7. Listen to music to create a sense of ambience. Here are some suggestions for your listening pleasure during leisurely meals: Treat Yourself to Ambience!

8. Play an instrument to warm your heart!

Piano and Guitar

9. Exercise your brain with Sudoku or your physical body with your Exercycle.

10. Read a good book. Couple it with that afghan and hot beverage! If you aren’t yet winter cozy, one could always invite a friend to engage in a snow scooping race!

Stay cozy this winter!

World Hunger Poetry

What if poets could make a difference to prevent and eliminate world hunger? Poetry X Hunger is one such organization with the goal to prevent and eliminate this social issue Some poets inform from first hand experience with hunger. Others write as an observer. Yet other poets dream of solutions. Let’s explore world hunger poetry!

Here is my poem.

When the Hungry Sleep

The hungry rest on tufts of pea green grass
beneath a sunset sky of cherry red;
evolves to berry blue as time does pass.
A mashed potato moon lights nature's bed.
Some meteors streak silver through the night,
appear as schools of fish in unison.
The hungry gaze in awe for one last bite:
Could you, could I provide much more than one?

Let's donate to some food banks, stop food waste,
grow healthy food on Mother Earth to eat,
Imagine plenty - food for all to taste
from nature's palette plenty - what a feat!
The trees would clap when all are satisfied.
Please help us spread our message far & wide!

Linda M. Wolfe, First Rights to Poetry X Hunger 2021

Here is the link which includes me reciting my poem if you like:

These are a few links with more of my poetry: Vincent Van Gogh, The Mona Lisa Effect, Michelangelo Inspiration, and Stars. If you feel so inspired, please join me in doing what we can to end world hunger. Thank-you for reading World Hunger Poetry!

Radical Acceptance

Sometimes we humans have potentially difficult situations in our lives. It could be trying to cope with a severe health condition, to dealing with grief, or attempting to fathom our ever changing society. Do you live with radical acceptance? It is an intriguing concept. Here is what our son taught me through his having cancer.

Our son dealt with pancreatic cancer for nine years before his passing. Two of those years were undiagnosed, simply because the pancreas is hidden so deeply within our organs. It is a particularly difficult area to access. He accepted most of the conventional treatments offered to him. Our family also exposed ourselves to lots of reading and practices with complementary approaches to treating disease. I honestly do not know the specific influence which brought him to radical acceptance. If I had to guess, it could have been from reading Dr. Bernie Siegel’s work Perhaps it was a generality he himself formulated from the complex conglomeration of options before him.

Walk of Acceptance

Our family participated in many cancer walks. Our son’s longevity made him a role model to many. One time, it seems the focus was to have been put on our son. He flat out refused anything to do with this recognition. Do you know the reason? It was because of one of the themes of this organization. It was to “fight” one’s cancer. Our son felt that an attitude of acceptance was more beneficial. When one is in a fighting mode, one is on edge. A fight would release adrenaline and nonadrenaline into one’s system. The fight or flight response induced by these hormones is not conducive to good health. It exacerbates the condition. Our bodies actually need relaxation hormones in order to be healthy. Our son learned to practice radical acceptance to everything in his body as it was all a part of him – including the cancer.

Acceptance in Other Walks

With any potentially difficult situation, an attitude of radical acceptance can ease our burden. The process of allowing our bodies to produce feel good hormones, rather than those that put us on edge, permits our bodies to create a natural healing response. It could be helpful for any illness, for any challenging situation.

Look at grief. It is one of the most difficult emotions for humans to process. The potential directions grieving people have are many. Each person has specific ways that may bring more comfort. The secret is finding them.

What if we look at society now? We have so many factions fighting against one another. Some political parties, countries, religions, etc. are at odds. Each is treating the other as if they are a scourge or a plague on society. Dare I say, we are FIGHTING one another as a cancer? We do ourselves nor the “other side” any good by constantly fighting.

Cancer can be a teacher to invite one to examine one’s life and search for answers to improvement. Don’t ask why. Ask what one is to learn.

What if we pretended that all of society was as one body? Could we practice radical acceptance? Even scientific journals are now recognizing that quantum physics supports the concept of the oneness of all. This article beautifully elaborates on what could happen if we acknowledged that we all are truly one!

The same is true of any illness, with grief. How could we compassionately befriend these situations?

This sense of one being with no separation is quite beautifully reflected in Rumi’s poem, The Guest House.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.


My blog post, THINK LIKE WATER depicts a similar model of living. Here is another link on how the magic of music, as well as all the arts, can be key to initiate peacebuilding to positively affect societal relationships: ARTS AND SOCIETY – I.

Finally, let us consider this model of graciously accepting all. It is possible to welcome difficult situations, to peacefully accept what is in order to move forward. Just think what an amazing world we would have if we all practiced radical acceptance!

Call of the Winter

Ah, there is nothing like the first good snow cover to begin to hear the call of the winter! It always seems to capture that childlike enthusiasm of a classroom of students upon getting to play in the early snows of the season. I reminisce the wonder of students in creating their own paper snowflakes, each as unique as the children who created them.

Winter Wonderland

  1. It was the kind of snow that brought children running out their doors, made them turn their faces skyward, and spin in circles with their arms outstretched. Eowyn Ivey
  2. The color of springtime is flowers; the color of winter is in our imagination. Terri Guillemets
  3. Snow flurries began to fall and they swirled around people’s legs like house cats. It was magical, this snow globe world. Sarah Addison Allen

Nature’s Winter Artistry

A fresh snow brings out the artist in me, searching for beauty in the world. A memorable time was had when my husband and I went on a hike through pastures following an eight inch snow. It was quite a workout, but we captured some amazing photos!

  1. I prefer winter and fall, when you feel the bone structure of the landscape – the loneliness of it; the dead feeling of winter. Something waits beneath it, the whole story doesn’t show. Andrew Wyeth
  2. It is the life of the crystal, the architect of the flake, the fire of the frost, the soul of the sunbeam. This crisp winter air is full of it. John Burroughs
  3. Kindness is like snow – it beautifies everything it covers. Kalil Gibran

Call of the Winter Wisdom

Winter is a time of rebuilding and replenishing.

  1. In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. Albert Camus
  2. The fire is winter’s fruit. Arabian Proverb
  3. Winter is a season of recovery and preparation. Paul Theroux
  4. That’s what winter is: an exercise in remembering how to still yourself then how to come pliantly back to life again. Ali Smith

Here is a link for some fun outdoor winter activities: you relish whatever season you inhabit as that is the best strategy of all!

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